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Beyond the Mask: Exploring Identity and Family through Cosplay

May 8, 2026

Beyond the Mask: Exploring Identity and Family through Cosplay

The act of changing one's appearance to assume a new identity is not a modern invention. From the ancient traditions of carnival and religious festivals to the sacred nature of initiation rites, the transformation of the self has always been ingrained in the human psyche. Today, this impulse finds its most contemporary expression in cosplay—a portmanteau of "costume" and "play."

In his evocative photographic project, They Don't Look Like Me, artist Niccolò Rastrelli explores this phenomenon. By capturing cosplayers alongside their families in their own homes, Rastrelli highlights the tension and harmony between social identity—represented by the parents—and individual identity, expressed through fictional characters.

The Global Reach of Costume Play

While cosplay originated in the comic book conventions of 1980s Japan, Rastrelli's work demonstrates that it has evolved into a truly global subculture. The project spans multiple continents and diverse professional backgrounds, proving that the drive to embody a fictional character transcends borders and social classes.

Among the subjects in the series are:

  • Italy: Professionals ranging from butchers and ambulance drivers to pharmacists and stage tailors.
  • Japan: Teachers, secretaries, and entertainment facility planners.
  • Kenya: Lawyers, TV producers, and data annotators.

This diversity underscores a key insight of the project: cosplay is no longer about adhering to a stereotypical standard of beauty. Instead, it is about the desire to be seen, photographed, and shared. For many, it is a "parallel life" that allows them to explore facets of their personality that may remain hidden in their professional or family roles.

The Contrast of Identity

Drawing inspiration from John Olson's 1970s photography for Life magazine, Rastrelli intentionally positions his subjects as "rock stars" within the domestic sphere. This juxtaposition creates a powerful metaphorical contrast. On one side is the stability and expectation of the family unit; on the other is the vibrant, often surreal world of virtual characters.

For some, the choice of character is a reflection of their inner self. One subject, Uta from Chiba, Japan, chose a secondary character from JoJo's Bizarre Adventure because he describes himself as an introverted person not suited for a lead role. For others, it is a familial bond. In Osaka, Mizuki and her mother cosplay together as siblings from Demon Slayer, turning a shared hobby into a bridge between generations.

Perspectives and Critiques

The project has sparked a range of reactions, reflecting the broader societal debate over the value of "entertainment" versus "productivity."

While some viewers find the images heartwarming, noting the beauty of parents embracing their children's unconventional passions, others view the practice with skepticism. One critic argued that such pursuits are a waste of life compared to building families and working hard. However, the project suggests that for the cosplayers, these activities are not a distraction from life, but a way to better understand themselves.

Conclusion

They Don't Look Like Me serves as a reminder that the masks we wear—whether they are professional titles, family roles, or elaborate costumes—are all tools for navigating identity. By bringing the fantastical into the living room, Rastrelli reveals that the "strange and different" is often just another layer of the human experience, supported by the people who know us best.

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